A CarefulParents member reached out to us to share her story and tips for dealing with bullies.  Give it a read and let us know what you think!

I’m Jackie while I am an editor, researcher, and writer, I am also a mother to two small children, one of whom is now in full time education. Sadly, she has gone through the upsetting experience of being bullied at school.  Although the problems are now sorted out I often felt helpless as to how to support my daughter as she struggled to cope with the situation she was in.

In my role as a writer, I’ve recently helped to put together this useful infographic on helping children to deal with bullying. You can find it here: https://www.fractuslearning.com/2017/07/03/help-child-with-bullies/

Learning How to Protect Your Children from Bullying

Bullying is a serious problem and one of the more dangerous things that can happen to your child in school. Beyond the obvious physical dangers of injury, psychological effects can be even more damaging causing lowered self-esteem, isolation, depression and thoughts of suicide.

As a parent, you have the responsibility and, more importantly, the power to help your child through this trying time. Once you have determined that your child is being bullied, it is time to act. Here are some steps you can take to stop the bullying and treat its symptoms.

If You See It, Stop It

An important part of ending bullying is the response when you observe it. If you see it happening, it is important to act swiftly as well as consistently. You want to convey the message, immediately, that bullying is not ok.

Do not assume that the kids involved can work it out eventually or that it will blow over. Be sure to remain calm and respectful, though. Being bullied is already scary, and an angry or hysterical adult does not help anyone.

Getting the Facts

After a bullying incident is over, it’s time to find out exactly what happened. If you have witnessed the bullying firsthand, keep the kids involved separate when questioning them. Also, don’t do it publicly or in front of friends, peers or bystanders; an audience is sure to change how they respond.

Heal the Damage and Prevent More

First and foremost, assure your child that being bullied is not their fault. All too often children find fault in themselves for bad things happening to them. Explain to them that what happened to them was wrong and that you want to help stop it.

Give them some advice on how to deal with bullying such as telling them calmly to stop or walking away and staying away. Ask your child what would help them feel safer, and listen carefully to what they have to say. That way, they know they have the power to help themselves and that you are taking them seriously.

It’s OK to Get Help

Helping your child with bullying doesn’t mean doing everything yourself. If you suspect your child is having trouble talking to you about bullying or if you are unsure how to proceed, don’t be afraid to bring them to a counselor or find a professional child psychologist. Additionally, do not hesitate to call emergency services if there are occurrences or threats of serious physical or sexual violence regardless of the ages of the kids involved.